FAQ: Why your hair is so straight?

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‘Is your hair natural?’

‘What shampoo are you using?’

‘Why is it so shiny and straight?’

‘What do you do?’

Most people asked me those questions when they first met me in person. Well, I got it from my Mama. Thanks to her genes, I saved myself from hundred of bucks for salon lol kidding. But on serious note, I just want to share what I do with my hair to keep it beautiful cause every woman is crazy about her hair. Admit it, girls like the saying goes hair is our crowning glory.

(These Don’ts with my hair are just my personal preference and common sense. I don’t have any scientific reasons or proof for it but the results are pretty good.)

DON’TS:

1.Hair Dryer

I don’t use hair dryer or blower for the reason that I’m so lazy. My arms are getting tired from it cause I have a long hair it takes forever to dry. So instead, I just stand in front of our room heater and let the hot air flows through my hair. (win-win situation! lol) but seriously, I also think it is damaging to use hair dryer everyday it will cause dry hair eventually.

2. Combing hair when it’s wet

I don’t comb my hair when it’s wet cause wet hair tends to be frizzy and tangled. I only use my hands most of the time to comb and don’t force your hair when untangling. It will just cause unnecessary hair loss. I wait for it to dry to finally comb it using brush, you will notice it is easier to untangled.

Trivia: I only comb my hair when going to bed. lol too lazy!

3. No hot water

Using hot water to hair is a crime unless, you want to go bald. Since, living in Japan where there is winter I notice that hot water is damaging. So, what I did was I washed my hair first using lukewarm water not hot water that is 40 degrees. No matter how cold, I endure it.

4. Wrap your wet hair using towel

We usually wrap our hair with towel after showering, but I noticed that it makes my hair more tangled. So, after showering I just let my hair down even though the water is still dripping from my hair. The results are it’s easier to dry and comb.

5. Wash your hair everyday

This is my dirty little secret, I don’t wash my hair every Saturdays for the reason that I’m so lazy and I know that I don’t have work the next day. So it’s fine lol. But, I think washing your hair everyday is drying and I don’t use hair conditioner everyday cause I don’t have time. I can only use hair conditioner every weekends or when I don’t have work.

6. No to hair bleaching

I only use Liese Prettia product of Japan when I want to dye my hair. I’m scared of using strong hair dyes or hair bleach cause I know it’s too damaging. Liese Prettia doesn’t cause much damage to my hair, I’m using it for 4 years now and my hair is still fine. But this year, I plan to stop dying I want my natural black hair back.

That’s it! Nothing special or extra effort. I  don’t use any hair products, just shampoo and conditioner. Maybe it just all runs down on how you take care of your hair for it to be beautiful. I take pride to my hair cause it’s important to me. So for everyone who’s asking me read my blog, people! lol

‘Have a nice hair day!’ xoxo

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‘Little Miss Too Nice’

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This blog post is very personal to me cause it is dedicated to all those people who let me down. This will be the first and last time I’m going to talk about it. I just want to express and let go all the pain I’m feeling right now.

I bet all of us know what betrayal feels like but I never expected it will come from those people who are really dear to me, who I knew for so long, who I trusted so much. I can accept everything if it comes from people who hated me rather than for those people who I treated like siblings. I was speechless.

My problem is I always care, I always do. Even for those people who don’t deserve it. If my friends need me, I’ll be there in a heartbeat cause I know what it feels like to have no one. If you need a listener, I’ll be there to listen and comfort you cause I know what it feels like to have no one to talk to. When I love, whether it be relationship or friendship I tend to give myself too much to the point, I was being taken for granted. I put too much trust on people even higher than Mount Everest cause I never had a single doubt about the friendship we had. But surprise! I know now that just because you treat them well with all your honesty and soul it doesn’t mean they will also do the same for you. Life is unfair. Why do I always need to learn things the hard way?

You can never really trust people these days. Even the people you thought will be there for you until the end will drop you down. I swear. So from now on, I’ll do what’s best for me. I will let go all the people who taken me for granted and never really appreciate me. The show is end, my dear ‘friends’. I don’t deserve all of these bullshits cause all I ever gave was only love and genuine friendship. My hands are already full with so many things going on with my life right now. I don’t want to waste another time for fake people.

So lesson learned, at the end of the day all you’ve got is yourself and your faith. Don’t put too much trust on people. Learn to be silent and be your own hero. I can’t kill all of you literally but I will treat all of you like a dead person. I will just completely ignore you like you never existed in my life. You won’t hear a thing from me starting today. You all made me look so stupid. I just can’t believe what you did to me cause you’re the least people I thought who will ever betrayed me.

I know now who are really true to my face. I really appreciate those people who says the truth no matter how hard it is than to comfort me with lies. Thank you for saving me from the people I thought who cares for me. Truth hurts but I’ll always choose pain and honesty than faking it. So fuck fake friend, fuck fake love. For one last time, TANGINA NIYONG LAHAT.

P.S I’m so sorry for the cursed words. I just badly needed an outlet to vent all my emotions but I’m fine now.

Being at 20-ish

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‘we’re happy, free, confused and lonely at the same time. It’s miserable and magical oh yeah..I don’t know about you but I’m feeling 22. Everything will be alright if you keep me next to you.’ 22- Taylor Swift

This is the phase where you are almost legal in everything that the world has to offer. Loans, credit cards, alcohol, driver’s license, bars, casinos etc. name it! Yep, we’re ‘that’ legal now. We don’t have to make fake ID’s anymore in order to enter a bar or buy cheap spirits. Sounds fun, right? But also overwhelming, cause from now it means we’re ‘adults’ and we have to be responsible for ourselves. (omg! Hi Mom, please read my blog. I don’t want to be an adult anymore, help! sending SOS loljk)

Nobody said it will be these confusing cause the decisions I’m going to make today will either make or break me in the future. For the past few months, I was a ‘damsel-in-distress’ trying to figure out what the hell am I gonna do with my life? I’m also wondering how come some of my batchmates are already married with kids while the others are still busy getting wasted every weekends? I belong to the latter, okay. We’re still kids who are so confused and lost trying to act like an ‘adult’.

They say 20’s are your selfish years to build, learn and explore. Being in the foreign land, makes it much harder for me to know what am I supposed to do cause I don’t have any idea what’s going on. It took me a year to realized what I want to do with my life. For the first time, I am so sure with my decisions. I finally found my reason to stay. Congratulate me, guys!

I know the journey would not be easy. It might be tough and hard but I want to pursue it. I finally understand the feeling of waking up each morning with goals and dreams to achieve. I’m not living my life like a ‘jellyfish’ anymore. This time I’m taking control with my life. I might be too ambitious but the hell this is what I want and I’m going to make it happen no matter what it takes. So young folks, ‘chase dreams, not people’ cause there’s more to life than love.

We’re still new in these whole adulting phase, so don’t be so hard in yourself if you’re still feeling lost. You might be drained, confused, lost, and stuck but I tell you, it’s completely okay cause it’s all part of the process to grow and learn. As the saying goes ‘if you’re struggling, it means you’re progressing.’ So don’t give up yet, we’re just starting. Don’t forget that we can always rewired, rebuild and restart our life cause we’re still young we’ve got time.

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How to love?

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We all have our fair share when it comes to love and heartbreaks. I learned everything in the hard way. I admit it, I am self-proclaimed ‘hopeless romantic’ blame the kdrama, novels, movies and grandparents. A big believer of one great love, destiny and fate that no matter what our concept about love there’s still one person who can love us unconditionally.

That’s why when I love, I love hard. Really hard. I became completely insane and stupid. I can forget everything including myself for the happiness of the person I love. I’m willing to go extra miles for them. They always say ‘when you love you should always leave something for yourself.’ But how?! I don’t know how to love half-heartedly. I tend to give my everything even if it’s mean I am empty, cause I love them that much.

After my failed 3 years relationship, I was not the same anymore. Before, I love without fear. But now, I’m scared of loving the wrong person again. I don’t want to get hurt again because I don’t know if I can take another heartbreak. I don’t want to invest time and feelings for someone who will just leave again. I don’t want to waste my time for someone who will just play games. I’m tired of that. I had enough of it. So as much as I can, I will guard my heart and wait for the right man.

I sometimes ask the Most High, I deserve the love I am giving to everyone but none of it seems come back to me. I know I am worthy but why? I know I sound so bitter right now. Maybe someday, one day all the love I give will finally come back to me. In the right time with right person and all the questions I have in my mind will disappear.

After all, we all just want to love and be love.

xoxo

Culture: Valentine’s Day in Japan

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Happy Valentine’s Day everyone! As the day begins, I online as usual and my timeline was flooded with faces of couples expressing their love and gratitude for each other. Some seems so in love but of course, some are bitter cause this is the time of the year where life slapped into your face how single you are.

Let me tell you about my culture firsts, Valentine’s Day back home is all about the spirit of it. I remember back in college, it’s so normal to see ladies around the university carrying stuffed toys, flowers and chocolates while holding hands with their boyfriends. The main gate in front of school are flooded with flower vendors. But not just in school, everywhere you can see couples celebrating it in the streets, public transportation, malls, restaurants, parks and even on social media. Too bad if you’re brokenhearted, I must say just stay at home if you don’t want to see an eye sore. Filipinos are sweet, warm and romantic so it’s quite expected that Valentine’s Day is big deal and well celebrated.

The Japanese culture when it comes to Valentines is the exact opposite of my culture. I was shocked when I learned that the women here are the one who gives chocolates on Valentine’s Day. Okay, culture shock alert! Since, coming to Japan I learned to be more open-minded but there are things that still surprised me. In the Philippines, if a woman do these ‘giving chocolates on Valentine’s Day to the man’ she will be labeled as ‘easy-to-get, desperate, walang delikadesa, bitch, slut and cheap’ because we’re so used to the norm that it’s always the man who will take actions, do the pursuing and not the other way around. This culture is well-embedded in me. So, the first thing comes into my mind was: “BUT, WHY?!”

I had the chance to ask my Japanese co-worker about it cause I was really curious. She told me that they do it because this is the chance for a woman to do the ‘Kokuhaku’ or in English, confessing your feelings to the one you love or like. I was even more blown away with her answers cause again why is it the woman who will do the confession?! It’s a man responsibility and duty in my own culture. I asked her if they aren’t shy to do it. She said yes, they are also shy about it because what if the man reject her feelings or turn away but they still do it for their feelings to be known.

My conclusion about it is women here are so brave and the Japanese men are living the dream! Imagine, Japanese men won’t have a tough time pursuing a woman cause woman can also do it and it’s well accepted. Women can do the first move without judgments from the society. Japan is also a conservative country but when it comes to dating culture and the like, they are more open and equal compared to my culture where it’s always the man. So, men in the next life pray to God for you to be born as Japanese. HAHAHA lol

xoxo

5 Surprising things about Japan

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Hello everyone! My blog today might be late reaction cause if you’re my frequent reader you already know this 2017 will be my 2nd year here in Japan. I think I should wrote this a little earlier but I’m not emotionally stable last year cause that was my adjusting phase and I don’t want to sound so dramatic.

But let that sink in first..second year? for real?! OMG! Time flies real fast. Two years away from home. Two years of love-hate relationship with Japan. Two years of being (feeling) brave. Two years of knowing myself. Two years of struggling how to survive. Two years of finding a reason to stay. But no regrets, cause as the saying goes ‘life starts at the end of your comfort zone.’

So here are the list of things that truly surprised me when I stay here for a year:

Disclaimer: what you about to read are solely based on my own experiences and opinions. It doesn’t speaks for everyone else. Happy reading! ^^

5. Karaoke Pubs

Karaoke back in the Philippines is actually pretty unique where the whole street is your stage and the entire neighborhood is your audience. But Japan karaoke pubs are way too fancy! Each rooms are designed differently, some even have stages where you can let that inner Rihanna come out or just sing at the top of your lungs. The mics are rechargeable, tablets to select your song not remote. Hungry? No problem. They have menu for snacks and even drink bars. So, if you plan to go to Japan, karaoke hub is a must experience! Go for it!

4. Public Transportation

I was really surprised how Japan’s public transportation are really well-coordinated. The bus and train schedule are really followed. If it says 10:00am, it will really arrived at 10:00am! That feels like a magic for me cause I’m used to inconvenience back home. The seats are comfortable, adjustable seats for PWD and when you pay for bus fare they also use machine. Commuting here is nothing but convenience, no traffic jams and rude drivers.

3. Technology

Japan=high-technology. This is really true that most of the time I look like an idiot trying to figure out how to use certain stuff cause it’s too high-tech for me. I have a real good example here. I just got my driver’s license back then, my friend and I went to restaurant and I have to park my car at Pay Parking System where there’s a lock beneath your car. For 10 minutes I’m idle cause I have no idea how Pay Parking System works that I had to Youtube it! HAHAHA yes, I did it and for paying imagine a machine that all written in kanji’s. Imagine me, trying to google translate every button there cause I can’t read it. My gosh! struggle is for real. But yes to end the story, I made it with the help of Youtube and google translate. lol

2. Toilets

Public and mall toilets here looked like a celebrity bathroom. I swear! heated-seats, automatic flush and trash bins, powder room and even the designs are too glamorous. I also had a good laugh about toilets here. My mom is already living here in Japan for almost 20 years now, we were at the mall’s toilet. She’s calling me and asking me where is the toilet’s flush?! I find it really funny! She can’t find it cause each stalls are really well-equipped.

1.Suicide Rates

I don’t watch news here but I read it through articles online. I grew up in the Philippines and maybe my religion really plays a big role why I’m too surprised about it. For Catholics like me, suicide is a great sin to God cause we believe that only Him can take away our lives.

I know this is Japan, we have different culture and perspectives towards life. I know I’m not in their shoe to give opinions about it. I just can’t help but to wonder how can someone easily take away their lives like that and give up. Go to Philippines, see how Filipinos struggle everyday to bring food to the table, how students crossed dangerous bridges, roads and even swimming to river just to make it to school, how youths are not even studying instead doing dangerous works for a very low pay cause of poverty. I, myself have my own battles inside me but yet, we don’t give up on life just like that.

I hope Japanese can realize how lucky and comfortable their lives are. They can even receive support from their government. Everything in these country is made for the convenience of their citizens. If they only take a look and appreciate all the little things about their country, it will be a different story.

xoxo

Life after College

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Graduation. Diploma.

The two words all students aiming for. The day where all the hard-work will be paid off, sleepless nights will be worth it, to give back to our parents for all the sacrifices and start the dream we all have for ourselves. The day when my name was called to receive my diploma in front of my parents and everyone on stage, I felt like I’m on the top of the world. The tears of joy on my grandfather’s face, knowing he is proud of me that I didn’t failed him. Everything feels so right and nothing is impossible. After graduation, I already have a plan on what will I do. I was young and naive to think all of it will come easy. I still remember the day before our graduation where our professors told us that ‘real world’ is way different. Back then, I can’t fully grasp what they mean but now, I completely understand it.

Four years of my college life has gone by so fast, I never knew I will miss the university life cause we all hate school, right? Now, I’m working whenever I see teenagers in school uniforms I can’t help but to feel nostalgic. After graduation, some of my blockmates already got married and started to build their families. While most are like me, still getting wasted every weekend and figuring out what to do with life. Being in early 20’s is so confusing. I feel so lost but must trust the process. I believe where I am right now is where I’m supposed to be.

I still remember the day when our professors used to criticize our hard-earned business plans, products and projects saying it’s too ordinary, not innovative enough and tactless. I thought they are being too mean back then but no, real world is meaner. Humans can be harsh and not everyone will like you and that’s completely okay. Your mother didn’t brought you in this world to please them. Keep focus and mind your business. Let them keep on talking and just prove them wrong.

I still remember the day when I was so brokenhearted when I failed my Law subject, I cried. A lot. I felt like a total failure thinking I can’t graduate on time. But let’s all laugh together, cause I failed my JLPT exam today which is way too painful that I can’t even cry. I want to sing Coldplay’s Fix You at the top of my lungs right now lol. Also, when I failed my Japanese’s driver’s License exam for 9 times. Yes, 9 fucking times! But didn’t gave up though, on my 10th try, I passed. Moral lesson: ‘it’s okay to rest, but never stop.’

I still remember all the body pains we got from working on our Bazaar all day and night thinking how life can be these hard. But no, we’re just a cry baby because now the body pains I’m getting from working is never ending. Sometimes, I just want to cry but got no time for that. lol

Real world is tough. Life is tough. So get tougher. I know there are many things I need to learn more about life. After all, I’m just new in these whole ‘adulthood’ world. I just can’t help but to reminisce how university shield us from all the bullshits of the world. Almost, 20 years of our lives we’re just taught to raise our hands in classrooms and follow instructions. Then suddenly, after graduation we’re given free will with no manuals and instructions. Maybe that’s also the beauty of life, we need bad days to appreciate the good days.

Animo, La Salle!